Dangers of Porn
Recently, I've found myself increasingly drawn to a topic that's close to my heart: sex education. We all have our own experiences with sex ed, both as kids and adults, and it's clear that despite the wealth of information available online, many still struggle to attain a comprehensive understanding of their own bodies and sexual relationships.
I believe that working in the field of sex education is my calling, and I hope to eventually begin coaching individuals who seek a more informed approach to their sexual lives.
In this blog, I want to delve into one of the biggest obstacles to a fulfilling sex life and genuine sexual understanding: internet pornography.
So, here's the deal: kids are stumbling upon adult content way too early, despite parents' attempts to block it. Thanks to sleepovers and unsupervised hangouts, teens are getting their fair share of not-so-age-appropriate material. A study by Common Sense Media in 2023 even revealed that 73% of teens aged 13 to 17 have watched online porn. Crazy, right? I was shocked, and also not… remembering what led to my decision at 12 to become a pornstar. It was before high-speed internet, though; on a VHS, the rest is history.
Anyways, back to our main problem. Well, the fantasy in those adult movies is, well, just that – a fantasy. It's all acting and drama, not a how-to guide for real-life intimacy. But many teens don't know it. They're learning about sex from the movies, thinking that's how it's supposed to be.
Reality check: actual relationships are different. Men and women should approach things a bit more realistically. But because of those movies, guys might bring some not-so-cool behaviors to the bedroom, thinking it's the norm. Girls, on the other hand, might expect something that's just not real. It's like they're putting on a show because they think that's what's expected. Fake orgasms, anyone?
What's crazier? Some people go through life thinking that what they've seen in those movies is how sex really is. Men thinking they need to be massive, women believing they have to look a certain way – it's like everyone's playing a part.
And who's the main audience for these movies? Surprise, surprise, it's mostly guys. There are some female-friendly movies where the main focus is on mutual pleasure, but they're like the unicorn of the adult film world – rare.
Now, let's talk about addiction. Yep, porn can lead to it, and breaking free isn't a walk in the park.
Addiction can lead to erectile dysfunction. I stumbled upon an interesting TEDx talk by Gary Wilson, where he delves into the recovery time for porn-induced erectile dysfunction. Interestingly, for young men, the recovery time after stopping watching porn, is around 4-5 months, while for older individuals, it's approximately two months. The reason? Despite logic suggesting younger guys should recover sooner, it's today’s porn. Guys in their 50s didn’t start with today’s porn and high-speed internet. The easy and fast access to the internet for young adults today can cause serious problems in the long run.
So, what's the solution? Education. The scare-tactics in schools? Not working. We need real talk about why sex is great, how to do it safely, and that there are tons of ways to get your pleasure on. In porn, they barely even use hands for sensual touching, and intimacy? Let's just say it's on another planet.
Both guys and girls might think that doing it like in the movies is the only way. Changing this mindset won't be easy, but if we want the real deal, we've got to step up and provide actual education. And that's why I'm on a mission to become a sex education coach – to bring some realness to the game.
I hope I can contribute to creating a more sexually awakened world where pornography isn't negatively impacting lives. I left mainstream porn and started my OnlyFans, where pleasure is always mutual and existing in my videos. I hope it will help my watchers reach a more satisfying level of sex by seeing an authentic portrait of fulfilling and ethical sex, where I only do what I 100% love.
